What to do if you fall in love with someone you only see in a picture.
You’ll probably love the person who has a photo to show you, right?
Well, the answer is: you can’t.
That’s because we’ve got a bad habit of looking at our social media accounts in the same way, only to find that it’s actually not us.
First, we’re using social media to create a digital profile.
If we’re looking for someone to talk to or hang out with, it’s pretty easy to find someone we really like and share our interests and hopes and fears with.
And that’s fine.
It’s OK to love people you see on social media.
The problem is that when we do, we start thinking that we are the only person who knows us, that we’re our own best friends, and that we have no right to interact with other people without their permission.
And if we do this for too long, we may start to lose touch with who we really are, because the social media filter has become so sophisticated that it takes away the real person from us.
Second, we can also get so engrossed in seeing what people think of us that we forget to pay attention to what’s happening in real life.
If someone you love is suddenly in the midst of a divorce or a big financial crisis, you may not even notice it because you’re too busy obsessing about what they think of you and how you’re going to handle your new life.
It will just take longer to catch up on the news.
Finally, we’ve been told to stop looking at other people’s photos, and we can’t stop doing it.
This means that we get a whole lot of attention from other people when we post something, but that attention never stays long enough to be meaningful or worthwhile.
The result is that we end up missing out on what really matters in our lives, because we’re so fixated on how other people will like or dislike us that they don’t notice what’s going on in our own lives.
There’s a reason why people say “I like to look at pictures of my friends.”
The fact that we tend to look so intently at our own photos means that our attention is focused on the people we’ve connected with and who we like, not on the things that really matter in our life.
So, instead of looking to the people you’ve connected to, you might be more likely to think of your best friends as your best source of support.